Last week I attended an autism conference and I really wanted to share with you some of the things I learned for those of you who are either on the spectrum yourself or have children on the spectrum. (My 9 year old son has Asperger’s.) My main goal in going was to hear Dr. Temple Grandin speak – which is a treat in itself – but I learned far more listening to the collection of speakers, including Sean Barron, which my printable below is based off of. His speech corresponded with the book that he and Dr. Temple Grandin wrote together – “The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspective of Autism“. (You can pre-order their updated version here or read the older version now.)
As my son is approaching his pre-teen years we have been honing in on hammering out life skills and behavioral meanings – specifically in the area of social relationships. (The Aspie Teen’s Survival Guide is a phenomenal resource that I am ordering my son as is How to Teach Life Skills to Kids with Autism or Asperger’s.) These 10 unwritten “rules” that Sean Barron spoke about really hit me. Every single one of them are exactly what my son has been struggling to grasp. When I spoke with Mr. Barron after the conference I thanked him for such a good pointed list and told him I would be creating a printable poster of his “rules” for my son who has been fighting with each of these steps in different ways.
Print Here ==> Unwritten Rules of Life Poster
If you have a child on the autism spectrum I can bet you are absolutely agreeing with each of these unwritten “rules” that are important to thoroughly explain and learn. Take one each week for 10 weeks and openly discuss what each one means! And for those of you who are eager to point out that “Asperger’s” is no longer a technical diagnosis since it all falls under the autism spectrum – I don’t really care. It doesn’t change who my son is or the amazing person he is becoming. It doesn’t change the fact that he will always misunderstand social situations and has plenty to learn when navigating the waters of friendships. But it’s OK because he has a ton of support and he is insanely intelligent. I can tell you right now he knows far more than I do in many areas – and he’s just 9 years old.
Below are some fantastic books and resources that would be beneficial to read and have in your tool box as you continue through life. Just click on the image or link below to read more about each item.
6. Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships by Temple Grandin & Sean Barron
7. Thinking in Pictures: My Life with Autism by Temple Grandin
8. The Autistic Brain by Temple Grandin